Which Are you?
A Reason, A Season, or A Lifetime?
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
-When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
-When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.
–LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..
Copyright 2000 – Brian A. “Drew” Chalker
Clary’s take on this:
Today I reflect upon this piece of writing I’ve seen circulating around my friends’ blog. I think about the present and past, everything that has brought me to where I am today and that has made me who I am as well. It hasn’t been an easy journey, at times there was agony and dispare but there was also joy and hope. Certain events changed me forever, altering the true essence of who I was, changing it into something I’m not, in order to protect my heart. Perhaps I didn’t understand that certain people where there only for a SEASON.
A New Year always urges us to reflect upon life, goals and dreams. We look back at the year past and measure how far we went at all levels in our own life in relationship to those around us. I guess I’m beginning to do so. There are a lot of unfinished projects that will need to be carried on 2008. I’m looking forward to many other experiences and opportunities in the New Year and as I continue to learn to detect the kind of relationships that come my way, I will be able to take the best from each and everyone of them.
One thing that life, with its daily trials and challenges, haven’t been able to take from me is my ability to dream and to continue to work towards them no matter what. I now let myself be guided by instinct which is something I disregarded in the past. I appreciate life now at different levels and respect the fact of our finite earthly existence. It’s not easy to come to the realization that those I love might not be here with me before too long but it’s something I need to accept and embrace.
Another lesson I’ve learned is that time heals nothing, we might think its healed because we somehow remove ourselves from the place, person or situation, but we carry with us all its effects.
So I look forward to the future only looking into the past to draw the lessons I needed to learn and them bring forth the best I can I offer according to my knowledge and experience. There is always a better day if I look for ways to make it so, but at the same time being ready for the difficult times. It’s life and I need to learn to ride the waves it brings to my shore.
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I think that we meet all sorts of people through out our lives. Some are good and some are bad. You are right though. We should take the good out of whatever situation or experiences with people no matter how goood or how bad. This post says a lot about you as an individual. To me you are trying to break free as an individual. You are learning from your everyday experiences and at the same time you are emrging confidently as your own self. This year was one of the first year’s i actually managed to stick to and accomplish all my goals for the past year……..it only took me twelve years to finally get it right. Stick to what you are doing. I admire your attitude and your positive outlook over the situation. Always Fight The Good Fight.
A Lot of PPL,That I have met,our coming together has been a Reason,Due to the
understanding of Varibles in my life to assist others in there time of Need,and A
few of those PPL,have Become a LifeTime,of a wonderful friendship that has lasted
the worst of times to the Best of Times,We have Learned a lot from each other,and Those friendships have become “FAMILY”,,Sometimes more then My Real Family Ties
There’s many more wonders to discover an take a note off,and In those travels
many more PPL,To meet,enjoy,an Flourish.
I Know for a fact that those who truely understand you,have been a Lifetime ,
and the rest have been a Reason,or a Season,again due to your vast knowledge
that you have come to due your due deligence of adapting,researching,understanding
and proving that it functions ,if you put it to work and making it a reallity!!
My Friend You Are A Lifetime of Wonders,Reallities,an Fantastic learning,to share
with many that pass your road to enlightment!!
Thank you for all your comments. I guess I have been all of these as well as people in my own life. It hurts when you mistake the nature of a relationship but as the time goes by you learn to roll with the punches.
Clary, You should give credit to the author of this poem.
Paul Coelho.
Hi Betty,
As far as I know the author is unknown
“Born For A Season”
Rings created upon rings
Unknown where were going
Birthed anew
For a season
Making room for another to follow
~
Many more before you
Have come and gone
Shedding themselves
Making room for you
Out with the old, in with the new
~
Mother Nature
Encircles us
With
Gods
Creation of four seasons
~
Winter, spring, summer
And
Fall
~
Winter showing the beauty of
Her first snow fall
Spring
Embraced by a blanket of warmth
Showing an exhibition of color
Flowing through
A
Summer night’s breeze
Fall prepares herself
For the coming of a
“New Year”
~
What was new
A year ago
Has grown old
Shedding away
Four seasons
Creating another ring
Of the unknown,
The birth of a new
Season
~
Looking in my rearview mirror
I see what I’ve missed
Moving forward
Not stopping
Only to
Embrace
The importance
Of what I would like to go back after
~
Moving upon the first crossroad
Of
A new year
I think of all that has
Shed its self
Making room
For
2008
“Happy New Year “
To all of you!
Arthur Henn
Clary,
Another year has shed its self making room for 2008…I am a life time grown out of four seasons.
This was another good post, I love reading what you write.
Arthur
Help. I am trying to locate the author of the poem, “People Come Into Your Life for a Reason.” I am not having a lot of luck. Could you tell me how you got permission to post his poem? I am writing a memoir and am desperately trying to get permission from the author. It’s hard enough finding out if Brian Drew Chalker really wrote it. Please help me. Sincerely, Andrea Jones
Im Drew Chalkers ex-wife and this is the longest running lie hes ever told. The fine people on the internets opened my eyes to this lie in 2004 but Drew didnt admit til after our separation in 2009 that he didnt write it. Iyanla Vansandt wrote it in a book containing poems of inspiration for people of color. The book was copywritten 1993 if I remember correctly.
It would have had to be written before 2000 because I had a version of it on my wall in the late 90’S. I found another forum where Brian Chalker appears to be asking for his name to be removed as the author,
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Ecclesiastes 3 English Standard Version (ESV)
A Time for Everything
3 For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven:
2 a time to be born, and a time to die;
a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted;
3 a time to kill, and a time to heal;
a time to break down, and a time to build up;
4 a time to weep, and a time to laugh;
a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
5 a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together;
a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6 a time to seek, and a time to lose;
a time to keep, and a time to cast away;
7 a time to tear, and a time to sew;
a time to keep silence, and a time to speak;
8 a time to love, and a time to hate;
a time for war, and a time for peace.