A Reason, A Season, or a Lifetime?

27 12 2007

Which Are you?
A Reason, A Season, or A Lifetime?


People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime.

When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

-When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.

They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.

They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.

What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

-When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.

They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway); and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…..

Copyright 2000 – Brian A. “Drew” Chalker

Clary’s take on this:

Today I reflect upon this piece of writing I’ve seen circulating around my friends’ blog. I think about the present and past, everything that has brought me to where I am today and that has made me who I am as well. It hasn’t been an easy journey, at times there was agony and dispare but there was also joy and hope. Certain events changed me forever, altering the true essence of who I was, changing it into something I’m not, in order to protect my heart. Perhaps I didn’t understand that certain people where there only for a SEASON.

A New Year always urges us to reflect upon life, goals and dreams. We look back at the year past and measure how far we went at all levels in our own life in relationship to those around us. I guess I’m beginning to do so. There are a lot of unfinished projects that will need to be carried on 2008. I’m looking forward to many other experiences and opportunities in the New Year and as I continue to learn to detect the kind of relationships that come my way, I will be able to take the best from each and everyone of them.

One thing that life, with its daily trials and challenges, haven’t been able to take from me is my ability to dream and to continue to work towards them no matter what. I now let myself be guided by instinct which is something I disregarded in the past. I appreciate life now at different levels and respect the fact of our finite earthly existence. It’s not easy to come to the realization that those I love might not be here with me before too long but it’s something I need to accept and embrace.

Another lesson I’ve learned is that time heals nothing, we might think its healed because we somehow remove ourselves from the place, person or situation, but we carry with us all its effects.

So I look forward to the future only looking into the past to draw the lessons I needed to learn and them bring forth the best I can I offer according to my knowledge and experience. There is always a better day if I look for ways to make it so, but at the same time being ready for the difficult times. It’s life and I need to learn to ride the waves it brings to my shore.


24 12 2007


Waiting can be one of the most difficult things we have to do in our life. Just like when Jesus was born, the people today are awaiting a savior, a better day, a loved one, a healing, a call, a letter, a visit. I know that in my own life I can grow impatient when I really want something. I long to go, to see, to feel. It’s human nature I suppose.

I know today many will be happy but perhaps many others will be sad. Those who are far away from their families, those who are sick and lonely, those who doesn’t even know God exists. I hope this is a happy day for you but if it’s not, just know that you are not alone. Whatever your trials are, know that you are never out of God’s hands; he wants to be with you, console and give you the strength you need to go on. I feel alone sometimes during trials but I noticed that it’s when I’m focusing on me and my feelings forgetting to look outside myself and unto others. When I lift my eyes and concerns from me, I see the goodness around me in the people who surrounds me and share this wonderful world with me. When I’m concerned about others instead of me, I find solutions to my own situations and hope in a new day.

May the awaiting time for whatever it is your are waiting for is not too long and may you rejoice today as you are reminded of the greatest blessing of all, Jesus.

Merry Christmas!

A Christmas Wish

23 12 2007

We are just hours away from celebrating one of the most important days for Christians. It is a time to remember and reflect on the awesome gift God gave to us in Jesus. What amazes me the most of all about this big event is that God was so in love with us that he was willing to become one of us in order to reach out to us. His love is so perfect and complete that we should not need anything else. We are called to love like he did but the more I see his love the more I realize how short I come up in matching his goodness. It is only by yielding to him and letting him use me as a channel when the most pure love come forth from me to others. My gift and channel is my writing, with it I’m reaching out and bringing forth from the depths of my soul not only what I feel but what he wants to communicate to me. Sometimes I’m lost in darkness and desolation, others I’m beaming with light and understanding. There are peaks and valleys, there is rain and sunshine, there is laugh and cries. It’s the complexity of our nature and one that I hope anyone can relate to.

This morning as I write this to you, the silence feels my senses and the words flow with ease. I feel tranquil and almost like I’m not here but floating about myself, it’s prayer. I think of you and wish that you experience the same peace and tranquility I’m feeling right now and that you get to be embraced by infinite love. Love is what we search and long for all the days of our life, without it we live an useless existence.

My wish this Christmas is that I get to understand the mystery of love. As I look into his eyes I hope that, what feels like my never ending journey, guide me to where I’m supposed to be.

Reading Between the Lines

21 12 2007

One of the best things a writer experiences is listening to what their readers have to say about their writing, sometimes it is what’s between the lines what impress them the most. I’m surprised when someone can clearly do so and extract the sentiment in which the words came out to the surface. Words are a true channel for us to connect to another soul, is transcendent and lasting sometimes able to help others make decisions or changes in their life.

When I write it’s not my intention to make anyone do anything. To me is my way to bring from within what yearns to come out to the surface in my own life. It’s a chance to evaluate, to know and to grow as a human being. I try to understand myself, my life, my purpose on this planet and while doing so share the journey with whoever wants to come along. I love to be around family and friends but at the same time I treasure the time I use to read, reflect and then write.

Lately I’ve been reflecting on life and the shortness of it, maybe because I’m watching the two people I love the most deteriorate before my eyes without being able to do a thing about it. So I look at my life and -uncertained of how much longer I may have- sometimes I get anxious. When I’m gone only my words and the impression of those who have known me will be left, good or bad.

So to all my readers, especially those who take the time to let me know what my words mean to them, thank you. It’s the interaction on places like these where ideas continue to grow within and I look forward to share even more as time goes by.


20 12 2007


Life is a journey, one that it’s composed of many roads and crossroads. Our destination is one impelled by either choice or chance. We are supposed to get familiar with the ultimate goal and then look for ways to attain it somehow. I believe there are many routes to the same destination and each one of us chose the one that’s best for us.

When you come to a crossroad it’s a time when as an individual you need to dig deep in order to decide which way to go. Each route will bring a different result and effect. We get an idea of what it could be but not to the fullest of our senses. Instinct is an useful tool in this regard. Being in tune to who you are and your intentions will propel you in the right direction. It screams at you sometimes and yet, you disregard it. The consequences for that disregard can affect you for a very long time.

In looking for balance and a way to somehow move along the path I try to reflect upon the fact that I’m only human. Strength comes from facing the many challenges life presents to me on a daily basis, just like the one who lift weights to develop muscles; the training must be endured and the weight increased as the time goes by to get stronger.

It’s not easy sometimes to endure the journey and to accept what we can’t change even if we want to. Certain situations and experiences are carried by us for as long as we are alive, we need to make the best of it. But on the other hand there are many things that we can change and we can even build new roads for what we believe needs to exists in our own life. Maybe we need to choose a road less travelled to move ahead. I don’t have all the answers, I just ask as much as I can as I move along the path. I look for signs, look deep within, offer a helping hand, I listen more than I talk, and then move on. I’m not sure what I’m trying to say here, the words come without me thinking too much. I just write what I hear in my mind. Maybe this is something I or someone else need to hear, I don’t know.

Leave a Trace

20 12 2007


How long will I be here
I don’t know
Would my life matter
I have no idea
All I want is
To leave a trace
That I existed
For You
My Dear

Copyright 2007 Clary Lopez

With You in My Mind

18 12 2007


To you, who read my words:

Writing is a gift, one I treasure each and every day, without it I would be completely lost. There are many ways to express what lies deep within our heart and soul and words to me are the most powerful of all. Looking deep I see a big castle with many, many rooms, in each one of them there is a little piece of me a facet of some kind. I go in a differernt room each time and in some of them I find you, unable to vocalize what’s in your heart so I go out and write it down for you, it’s my gift to you. Perhaps you are better expressing with actions what lies deep within your heart and that’s okay, but I want to forever leave the words sprinkled on my path so that others know what was in my heart.

I carry you around and look for ways to help you out, there is nothing I can do but to let you know I listen to your heart. If you are in darkness I want to bring you light and if you are sad I want to bring you hope and happiness. When you take the time to share with me your thoughts I pick jewels out of them and place them in my treasure box. I go there from time to time and then create the most beautiful writing pieces because they have a little of you and me. I can’t create a thing without you, because it is with you in my mind that I get inspired to go beyond the physical realm and reach across the cosmos to touch your soul and I hope I do. Thank you for reading my words…