Book Launch Preparation

7 04 2009

As the time draws near to the moment I have worked so hard for, I can not help but to also feel anxious.

I pray that my next book, Moonlit Walks, offers my readers a reason for hope in these difficult times when it is hard to look for that positive glimpse in our daily circumstances. It is the only way to move on and let our life be transformed into what is meant to be.

I don’t offer solutions to individual situations but one thing I can do is to share with you my journey in order to inspire others to begin their very own journey. In the same way that I offered in Simplicity, Richness of Life, my experiences on raising a family and learning to live simpler in order to do what matters in my life, on Moonlit Walks I will explore many other topics that I deemed worthy to reflect upon and explore. It is the only way I know how to navigate my life and the turmoils it sometimes accompanies it, one that perhaps will help others to do the same in their own unique way until they too find themselves in come waters.

Life is not easy sometimes but it becomes bearable when we share it with those around us. I believe that is why many of us are having a hard time today, we have disconnected ourselves from each other in pursuit of our own dreams. We have lost the sense that family, friendship and community is what makes us prosper in the long run, not merely individuality. We treasure who we are, yes, but never forgetting that we are also called to share ourselves with others. It is a way to enrich life and to make it more meaningful. It is to give it reason for its existence.

Stay tuned for the announcement on the launch of Moonlit Walks, I will try to make it as memorable as the moments that inspired it.

State of Mind

2 04 2009

Today I have been reading a book about tough times, then I am compelled to come here and read back on some of the entries I made a few days ago. I am looking for signs, for a reason to hold on, for a glimpse at words that I am sure did not come from me but were inspired to help others -including me- to move along to trust and hope. A lot of my writing comes from the time I take to listen to others, from prayers and quiet moments I spend in meditation and recollection. Today it is me who needs that consolation, that hope that everything will be alright, that even though many things do not feel right I will find a find a way to make it better.

I can not lose hope on a future that awaits me, a future that with its uncertainty is making me feel uneasy. Perhaps you have felt like that many times and maybe you would like to share the way you feel or felt at those moments.

My strength is being tested beyond measure it seems at times, and then come the developments of virtues I never had but need. It is a painful and difficult crucible and I must go forward until I come to the end.

Let Me Hear From You

26 03 2009

Today I thought about you and what are you going through. Tell me about your day, your challenges, your worries. I share on this blog a lot of different topics and describe many situations for you to reflect upon, but today I want to hear it from you. Would you tell me?

Screwing Up the Next Generation

4 02 2009


I often wonder what can we truly expect from the next generation? It is clear to me that the way we raise them will determine the kind of individuals they will be and what I see happening around me is not offering me much hope.

It amazes me how lazy and irresponsible some kids are today, they are hardly held accountable for their actions and don’t have to do much in order to get all the conveniences they enjoy like a car, cell phone and computers. Some people think I am strict but my job is to raise kids that will eventually contribute something good to society. In the past parents watched out for each others kids and they were respected by the teens or kids in the neighborhood, today hardly nobody takes the time to even get to know their neighbors. I still believe that parents have the strongest influence on their kids but unfortunately these days parents want to be friends more than parents and they don’t believe that their kids are able to make the right choices for themselves. Obedience, respect for authority, following the law are all things that I teach and expect from my children but once they step out my door there is a whole different set of boundaries in their friend’s homes.

I was always amazed at how minors were able to smoke and drink freely when it is illegal. How do they get their stuff?? Sometimes they get it through older friends but now days most of them get them from their parents, and their parents allowed them to do it home because “they are going to do it anyway” so they might as well do it at home where they have “some control.” Wow! I don’t see how is that going to help them and what about the kids that aren’t theirs? What happens to them when they get behind the wheel of a car drunk? Is that what we are teaching our kids these days? That it is okay to brake the law as long as their parents know? I believe parents are doing a disservice to themselves, their children and to society as a whole, by the time they are 21 years old -if they have survived- they are either alcoholics or with some kind of record for misbehavior with the authorities, or a DUI. Excellent way to start! We as parents need to step up to the plate and show them by example the way things are and teach them to respect laws and authority. It all begin with us and if it doesn’t I don’t know what kind of individuals are going to run this nation 10-20 years from now. Sometimes I feel like I am swimming against the current and sooner or later will drown because I see no lifesaver coming my way. I feel totally alone on my points of view. Am I too old fashioned or do certain values always prevail no matter the times? I believe that there are some fundamental truths that never change and these are one of them.

What is your opinion?

Obama’s First Mistake

24 01 2009

There was so much hope for a new President, so many dreams of a better future and positive changes and here we are, Obama’s great first mistake.

He struck down the ban on giving federal money to international groups that perform abortions or provide abortion information. Too bad that it was one that will kill millions of Americans. People think that this nation’s state is due to bad financial decisions and the war but it is not, this is about life and the complete disrespect people have of it. There is a high price to pay for killing innocent infants before they are even born, so when you see things get worse instead of better as the time goes by take notice of how many Americans have died because we play god and don’t complain.

If you think bring our troops back home will solve our problems and that we will be saving lives that way, I am afraid you are mistaken. I respect the military and what they do in keeping our nation free and safe. Few people would sacrifice the way they do.

The worst war we have in our hands is the one against evil and abortion is just one of the many battles that will brings us down, that along the numbness many seem to be in by mistakenly think that they have a right over their body and don’t realize that the baby is not their body.

I will brace myself for whatever will befall this nation because I am sure that God can’t keep blessing a country who kills their own for this long.

Unexpected Lessons

20 12 2008

The perpetual school of life keeps presenting me with a whole new course of unexpected lessons. Some of them are a retake of something I didn’t grasp the first time around and then others I have no idea they existed. Dealing with these unexpected lessons can be frustrating, half the time I don’t even want to be present.

-Why in the world should we go through it and most of all do what we said we will never do, if we encountered the situation?
I guess thinking of what we would do if a situation arose and doing when it does are two different things.

Never in my life I imagined having to dig deep within in order not to crumble on the outside. I am very good at moving along no matter what happens in my life but this time it is so very hard to do. I have been deeply wounded and I feel like I have been drained of all strength; physically, mentally and emotionally. At the same time I know I am not the first or only person who has gone through this before, I can survive.

I believe I accepted the challenge to take this unexpected lesson but at the same time I am looking for ways not to. I guess it is the realization that nothing will ever be the same, that could be good and bad. I think this is a good opportunity to step outside my city walls and expose my real self. I need to be who God created me to be and nothing less, whoever embraces me will be embracing the true essence of someone who has been buried for a very long time in order to become what I thought would be acceptable to the world. I have learned that to pretend is not to live and not to live is not what God meant for any of us. We need to be proud of who he created us to be and wait for those who would accept and love us just the way we are. This will be the moment of truth and it will take me to unknown and unfamiliar places but whatever that is it will be fine.

Have you gone through some unexpected lessons? What did you learn from them?

Not All Is As It Seems

15 12 2008


There is a certain perception people get from us as we move, talk and deliver subtle tones and mannerisms. They say a lot about who we are, or does it? Not so, many times we live behind smoking mirrors and masks placed there by circumstances and many times by life experiences. Are we to judge another for it? That is a delicate situation, I try not to because at the end of the road only the one traveling knows all the details of that journey and how hard it was to reach the present moment. I also don’t know their true challenges or intentions. Nobody likes to accept that something is wrong with them and if they do it is because they see no other alternative.

At one point or another we might be called to face reality and -as hard as it might be- we need to learn to embrace it. Each one of us know exactly how we can be reached deep inside but we don’t dare tell a soul unless we trust them. Peeling the layers to expose the tender areas of our being is much too risky for us to voluntarily let another see. It is like being in war and stand in the middle of road without any armor or weapons on; we feel as an easy target. To walk out and surrender is inconceivable.

People who have been abused in some way (physically, mentally or emotionally) in the past are the ones who look to control everything around them in order not to get hurt again. By stopping the normal flow of life in general and look for ways to channel it the way they want creates an unnatural circumstance that in time tends to follow their own natural course. Not knowing what to do, all becomes confusion and their world comes tumbling down. Controlling the normal flow of life is only a self-protection mechanism and in time and with the right mode of communication channels the walls of protection can come down.

Stereotyping, judging, criticizing and measuring changes does not stimulate the necessary trust to create improvement. I don’t know you, but I don’t like to be compared to anyone. I remember when my mom used to compared me with my cousin; She thought that by giving me an example that it would help me behave in a different manner, it was the opposite, I was deeply offended. How dare someone tells me that someone is better than me? Instead of stimulating me to change it makes me go in the opposite direction. If nobody can see the good in me -which by the way could be very different qualities than others- I doubt very much I would reveal it after been challenge to do so. I’m guilty to do that sometimes with my kids but at the same time I try to look for the uniqueness of each of them and their good traits and build on that. Do I do it all the time? No, but I try. I need that every once in a while, I’m not perfect but I’m sure I have some unique qualities worthy to be praised and instead what I am presented constantly is what I don’t have or can’t give at this time. One thing is for sure; if we don’t have our life together navigating through it becomes rough.